Dating yourself shouldn’t feel as if it is hard! Dating yourself is being fulfilled with the relationship you have with yourself and enjoying your alone time. One of the ways you can fulfill your relationship with yourself is by taking yourself out on a date.
I like to think of this as a way for me to treat myself as well as me figuring out what kind of dates I would like to be taken on as well. There are many dates that you can take yourself out on, but I am only going to name a few. If you have any other dates, I would love to hear them :).
1 – going out to eat
Now, with this date, going out to eat can create different images in your heads. Going out for some may mean taking yourself out to a nice, candlelit restaurant. Others may think of going to a café/bakery and enjoying their favorite pastries there. There are even some that may think about going to a fast food restaurant (e.g., Chipotle, McDonalds, Whataburger, In n’ Out, etc.) as their going out to eat.
It doesn’t matter where you are taking yourself. As long as it is a place that you like to go to and enjoy their food, then that is all that matters.
2 – going to the park
I enjoy going to my local park and just enjoying nature. I’ll bring myself some food I brought from home, a good book, or my eyes to enjoy the view. Going out to the park is so peaceful to me and allows me to take a breather when it is needed. I can enjoy the sounds of the wind and the tree’s leaves rustling while I read a good book. I can cherish a favorite meal while I also cherish the season around me.
Everyone should at least go to the park once and just sit to enjoy Mother Nature’s creation. Sometimes, you can even chat to those around you and strike up a pleasant conversation. Or, you can just enjoy your alone time and relish in it. It is all your choice.
3 – going to an arcade
Okay, it may sound old, but I like going to places where there are loads of games to play. It reminds me of when I was a kid and I didn’t have a care in the world. I had my card with my tokens and just played for hours. I didn’t really care if I won a prize or not because I was just enjoying my time. But it unlocks an extra amount of fun when you play one of your favorite games and get a price with your hard-earn tickets.
You could go to Dave and Buster’s or a local arcade. You can even just take your favorite board, video, or phone game and just dive right in.
The whole point of going to the arcade is to have fun. Let loose and just be a kid again.
4 – going to the bookstore
For those who are thinking: the bookstore?! Hear me out. There is something about the bookstore that transports me to another place. I get to dive into different worlds while I read. It feels similar when stepping into a bookstore to me.
Now if you are someone who detests books or just can’t get into reading, then this date may not be for you. But if you are someone who loves to read, this may be an ideal date for you.
Whenever I go to the bookstore and purchase a good book, I get to be free from my normal distractions at home and get to enjoy myself. I can fully immerse myself into the author’s world and lose track of time.
5 – hiking, walking on a trail
Some of you coven are thinking that exercising is a self-date? I like to think so.
Similar to the park, there is an element that comes into play when you are in nature. I know I feel a sense of calmness wash over me as I go outside and walk around my favorite trail. You get to enjoy the simpleness and the complexity of the nature around you. You observe the birds as they communicate with one another.
Witnessing the beauty of the flowers blooming. Or, as I am writing this, the palette of the world changes from warm and bright with shades of pastels to a much muted warm palette. The leaves start falling, the wind feels as if it brings an extra chill.
Also, I tell myself that as I am enjoying the world around me, I get to enjoy my own company and show gratitude for the things in life that I cherish. And you also get to exercise and build your strength.
Growing oneself is a task that is always fulfilling in a relationship.
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