If you’ve taken virology, then you can understand the extensive details of how viruses are able to stay alive and multiply so easily AND fast. Honestly, when I took virology and learned about all of these viruses, I thought all of these new concepts were exciting and sort of mind blowing. For example, there’s more viruses than bacteria. How much more? Well, there’s 10 times more viruses than bacteria on Earth. Crazy right?!
There’s irony knowing that an organism that is so small that a microscope needs to be seen is also as big as human beings and you can see those as bright as day. I have seen some people and have wondered how the heck people are around them and their joy and lifeform isn’t sucked right out of them. There are some people who are just not the greatest human beings and they choose who their next victim will be.
To feel good, you need to feel bad
The common cold, the flu, and I know we all know of COVID. What do they all have in common? Well, when the virus is multiplying in your body to produce the next generation of viruses to infect someone else, you begin having symptoms of illness. You can have a sniffling nose, sneeze a bunch, have chills, you feel tired, and many more as the virus’s count increases. Well, that’s the same thing that some people do! As you are full of joy and life, they slowly just drain that out of you until you’re out for the count.
Well, why do they do that? I don’t know, and many therapists and psychiatrists are figuring that out to this day with so many people. However, from my experience, it’s because they don’t have any joy or happiness in their life. And then, they see a person who has it and think to themselves, hey, I could have what they’re having. And they do! They just take it. It’s very unfortunate for the person who has to deal with this unfortunate virus. I mean, from what I’ve seen, these people can be no joke. I’ve seen them pull apart long-term friendships, family relationships, everything!
Another reason, in my opinion, why these people do this is because of the old phrase: misery loves company. I’ve seen people who absorb this horrible energy from these people who are viruses in their life. But, rather than get rid of the virus, they just give this bad energy to someone else. Then, they have company in their misery. It’s wrong, but it’s done so many times.
I remember seeing a close family member of mine be sucked in by a virus. It’s torture to see someone that you love have their life just go downhill because of one person. And you want to tell them that they need to get rid of this, but you may be unsure of the consequences that will occur once that is said. Or, sometimes it could be that you tell them to help them, but in turn, it causes them to become nasty to you.
So, you just have to allow them to have the virus and let the virus run its course until it find the person of no use anymore.
What do you do to get rid of them?
Well, as we know, with usual viruses, you just have to wait them out. There really isn’t any medicine that will immediately terminate that virus, especially if it’s your first time to that specific virus. I remember my nephew was sick and got me, my mom, AND my sister. He had me and all my family, except my dad, out for the count for at least TWO months! And all we could do was hydrate, get rest, and wear our masks whenever going out.
Eventually, though, our immune system finally started to catch up and we started to get better. Now, you have immunity in regards to that specific virus. You may catch the common cold, but it doesn’t make you feel so tired for weeks upon end. Instead, it may make you feel a bit tired for a couple of days and then you can bounce back. Now, you have your immune system to thank for that. I mean, I could go into the science of the white blood cells and all of that, but that’s for another time (if you guys would like to hear about it, let me know)!
Now, I know you’re questioning where this is going, but stay with me here. When it comes to human beings and trying to get rid of a virus in your life, it’s not so easy as letting it run its own course. So, what can you do? Well, for these viruses, there is a medicine that you can take: a reality check pill. Do you really want to live with this person in your life? Do you want to deal with all that they bring? When will you reach your limit? Have you reached your limit?
When that reality check pill kicks in, then that’s when you can start to get rid of that virus. Because, you no longer want to deal with this person and everything that they bring. You’ve had enough and you’re finally saying that enough is enough. You’re establishing boundaries, cutting the relationship off immediately, ghosting, slowly ghosting, whatever it may be! All in all, you’re deciding that you want to be in a mutualistic relationship rather than a parasitic relationship. And here’s the kicker when it comes to this reality check pill, it’s up to you or that person.
How long until the virus is gone?
That depends on the person and their level of “I’m over it.” Again, it’s up to the person dealing with this virus to say that enough is enough. I know of people who are still dealing with the virus that they swore is a pain in their ass. And yet, they still cling on to that person for dear life. In fact, most of the people who were around the host (the virus’s victim) have disappeared from their life because they refuse to deal with the problem! It was too much for them to be around!
For some, it may take days, months, maybe even years. And for some, it may never happen.
What do you do if I’m the host or host’s friend?
If you’re the person who is dealing with this virus, then I would say that you need a reality check pill. From yourself, from the people who love you, whomever it may be, you need one. In dire situations, you may need to hit rock bottom and realize how far you’ve fallen before picking yourself up and climbing your way out. And just remember, there isn’t a price on peace, your sanity, tranquility.
If you’re the person who is around a virus’s host, then I would do two actions. The first one, if you feel comfortable, is to confront this person in this relationship. Hopefully, in doing so, you’re opening up their perspective to what this relationship actually is and they can take their own course of action to get rid of it. The second action you can take is if this confrontation, or this person in general, isn’t improving.
You shouldn’t feel bad when it comes to leaving a friendship or relationship because that person refuses to improve themselves. If they don’t want to improve themselves and want to stay the same, then that’s them! But, that doesn’t mean that you have to stay with them and evolve into a butterfly as they choose to stay to be a caterpillar. And if they’re mad then so be it. They can sit with those emotions as you continue to go on your own path.
What if the virus comes back?
Let that immune system, a.k.a. your brain, kick in! Let those memories and feelings of the past revive themselves enough for that reality check to come in once more! Remember that you’re the one who’s going to suffer the consequences if you decide to be in that relationship once again. And you cannot fault anyone else for you getting back together with the virus. Trust me, some things are better if you just let them go. Completely. No looking back. Why look back to the past when there’s such a wondrous future that you can look forward to?
There’s no point in putting yourself through hell, escaping hell and beginning to live in paradise, all for you to change your mind and fall right back down into hell again. I mean, unless you like torturing yourself. Either way, when a virus comes into your life and you get rid of it. Make sure that it stays away.
In fact, that virus may stay away from good. However, there may be an evolved form of that virus. A different person, but they act the same way, say the same things, everything. If that is ever to occur, once again, let that immune system, your brain, kick in with those lovely memories of pain and torture. It’s not worth it, is it? It doesn’t matter if this person is a completely different person, they seem different, etc. I’m telling you, when you see a tick, do you think that it isn’t a tick? In fact, it’s a ladybug that’s disguised as a tick? NO! You see a tick and it’s a tick! So, don’t let the appearance of them fool you!
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