Now, if you are like me, you have heard this saying many times. Or, you have heard similar sayings: you have what you speak, the power of the tongue, etc. And if you were also like me, you kind of brushed off this saying. My mom would tell me this, and I would think that she was overexaggerating a bit. I would still take what she said into consideration, but her words didn’t really settle into me.
But now that years have passed, my mom’s words have finally settled. You DO have what you speak, and I am going to explain why you do.
Words have power girl!
I dived a bit into why words have such power in my last post: manifesting? sounds hippy. Well, now we’re gonna dive into this a bit more. Everything in this universe is emitting a vibration. Us, the flowers, your pet, you get the point. So, if we think about it, this means that our words have a vibration it carries.
If you have been on TikTok, you have probably seen those charts where it shows the emotion and its frequency from lowest to highest. I’ll give you a refresher if you need one. The highest frequency that you can emit is enlightenment or gratitude while the lowest is guilt or shame.
Okay, so we learned that words carry a vibration and gratitude or enlightenment carry the highest frequency. This makes sense because when you receive a genuine compliment, it lights you up. Think of the opposite, when someone humiliates you, the feeling of guilt or shame may come up.
You are responding to these vibrations whether you know it or not. Now that you know that you are responding to these words, you can do something about it! But how?
Kindness goes farther than wickedness
Just like you would want to have someone be kind to you, you should be kind to yourself. I have heard so many people tear themselves down publicly without any issues. They will go on about how ugly or stupid they are. Sometimes they just say it as if their saying is a known fact to the world.
This kind of self talk should be analyzed. For me, I know that we are always absorbing information. That means, somewhere, this information can be reached and changed. This may take time, but it is worth it when it brings you peace.
But we need to slowly replace the coldness of your words and bring warmth to them. One way that I do this is by NOT saying: I AM. By starting with I am is declaring that this is what you are, just like you are declaring your name.
What should be done instead is stating that I am FEELING _____. We are always feeling emotions: happiness, confusion, etc. But feeling a certain emotion eventually fades away. I always looked at feeling as saying that this feeling is temporary, but it needs to be said. With I am, I looked at it as if I was declaring the world to look at me in this way.
Sometimes, words take time to process
You may tell yourself an affirmation that you think in your head is complete bullsh**. However, that is a part of the process. You can tell yourself something and think to yourself that this is not true, but after repetition, you start to believe it.
Think about when you were hyping yourself up telling yourself that you got this. You may not have believed it when you told it yourself, but after some time, didn’t it feel like the words had weight to them now?
So, I want you to think about you telling yourself these affirmations like going to the gym (okay, stay with me here for this analogy). You are going to the gym and you use the 5 lbs or 2 kg weights. You get used to those and up the weights slowly until you have the ability to hold an immense weight. You repeating those words are you upping the weight of those words. With a greater weight, the words have a greater effect.
I remember I would tell myself that I am divinely protected. Now, when I started it, did I believe in it? A little. But now I completely believe it. There have been times where I have repeated an affirmation so much, I say it without even thinking.
Find your mantra
Think about what saying you want to bring peace to. That can be you saying to yourself that you are ugly, stupid, not worth it, anything. Now, I want you to think about what you would want someone to tell you to counteract this statement. If you are having trouble with that, then I recommend you to think about how to reword this saying to become positive:
“I am ugly”→ “I am beautiful”
“I am not worth it” → “I am worth it”
“I am not okay” → “I am okay”
Say it to yourself when you are walking, doing your homework, working out, cooking, watching a movie. Just like wounds take time to heal, your internal wounds also take time as well. And if your wounds have become scars, with time, those scars can fade. I want to say this to anyone who is reading this and is working on having what you speak:
You are an amazing individual who deserves to be treated with kindness. You are a beautiful/handsome person inside and out. You are worth the time and effort. You deserve to be treated like the amazing human being that you are.
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