The unfortunate situation where your love is a one-way street. It could be a crush, a significant other, a loved one, whomever. It doesn’t matter who. What does matter is that your love is being sent, and nothing is being sent back.
When you’ve been on the one-way street of love for so long, sometimes you get lost and forget how to get out. So, let me be a bit of a guide and help you find your way back! These plans that I go into are NOT in chronological order. You can take these plans as individual plans that can be added up into a multistep plan.
Plan 1 – Cut it!
May sound easier said than done. It might be for some individuals. Trust me, sometimes you just reach a point of self-preservation. What is this self-preservation point? It is when you think to yourself and realize that this isn’t worth it. This isn’t worth your time, money, energy, anything! You can spend your time and love on something else where you can actually reap what you sow.
For me, I would give people multiple chances because everyone is not perfect. You are human, and you WILL make mistakes. But once you made one too many mistakes, especially if they were repeat offenses, the scissors came out.
Eventually, it feels like an anchor that’s just weighing you down. And what are you going to do? Let yourself drown as that anchor rusts, or you can set yourself free and allow that anchor to rust all by itself. The choice, obviously, is up to you!
Plan 2 – Address it!
Now, sometimes cutting it off may not fit your situation. Maybe you need to have a one-on-one conversation with this person and tell them how you’re feeling. That is an excellent way to put emotions and issues on the table for them to be addressed and be able to move on.
There may be excuses that are made. Apologies may be said. Accountability can be taken. The latter two are lovely situations that can occur when you address your feelings. HOWEVER, words have to be supported by actions.
Someone can apologize for what they’ve done and go right back to what they were doing previously. Make sure that there’s a follow-through! If there isn’t a follow-through, then I would go to plan #1.
There was a time when I gave someone chance after chance after chance. You know what happened? They would continue to do what they were previously doing AND more. They showed that they didn’t mean what they would say, and they knew that they didn’t. But they thought that I would just stay because, well, I was staying for that long. So, why would I leave now?
Plan 3 – Slowly go ghost
Going ghost on someone is something I have done a handful of times, but I truly believed that it was the correct action to do. Whenever I ghosted someone, it was because I knew that there was no need to talk to them about the situation. I also knew that if I just straight up cut them off, there would be drama about it. So, I would slowly distance myself from that person until I just completely ghosted.
I think that slowly ghosting someone is when you know that they’re treating you horribly and they don’t want to talk about it. It could also be that you’ve already had a discussion with them about the treatment and they’ve reverted back to their old ways. When someone knows that you’re about to leave, it’s amazing the actions that will miraculously be done then.
You may be treated better all of the sudden, you’re getting more attention from them, they seem more interested. You wanna know why? Because they’re about to lose a person who gives them all the attention. So, if I can give them just enough attention to stay a little bit longer, then I can reap the benefits of this attention more.
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