When it comes to life, in my opinion, I have been shown that there is one consistency in life: everything is ALWAYS changing. The weather, your routine, your habits, the time, the seasons, etc. There may be some stagnancy in life, but usually, again, in my opinion, it’s because there’s progress happening that you aren’t seeing. Everyone is growing and making progress in their life, which I think is amazing. I believe that growing is crucial for us to grow and learn!
However, I have seen some people who are reluctant to acknowledge this and decide to stay the same. And, to me, it’s similar to someone trying to stop the Earth from rotating… it’s not going to happen. They decide that they want to freeze time and everything else that they can control, or at least what they THINK they can control. But I always see the same result: when they don’t change, their whole environment does for them.
Stubbornness and ignorance do NOT mix well
Listening to someone talk about how they’re in a horrible situation, whether it’s a circumstance, mindset, whatever, they KNOW they’re in a horrible situation, AND they refuse to do anything is crazy. Because you’re talking about the problem and are refusing to use the solutions. To them, they may believe that ignorance is bliss and that it’s okay! I mean, the situation hasn’t caused them THAT much damage, so what more could it do?
It’s crazy for me to wrap my head around, but I have witnessed this with OWN eyes. And may I say, those people are no longer in my life. Why? Because, for me, who wants to be around someone who refuses to acknowledge a problem that keeps on hitting them in their face? I mean, you see it and they see it, but they pretend that they are blind. And, again, from my own experience, it usually comes to hit you in the face until YOU acknowledge it and deal with it or you ignore it too.
I’m not the kind to ignore, so I acknowledge it by getting rid of the problem that I now have to deal with: the person who has become blind. These kinds of people have the information in their hands to improve their lives, and maybe those around them, and just decide to be stubborn and choose the hard way of life by ignoring it. No offense, but that’s the last person I want to be associated with! If you want to make bad decisions, fine. Just know, though, that you can do that ALL by yourself.
That way, when consequences come your way, I don’t get trampled by them as they make their way to you. From my experience, again, it has and you sit there and ask yourself this question: why am I dealing with this? I have a choice and I need to make it now… my sanity or this friendship. I choose my sanity. These are the same people who will know that they’re in the wrong and STILL advocate as if you’re the person in the wrong. Not my cup of tea.
The world will still turn
When it comes to these people who would stay in their bubble, I noticed that others would just leave and just dip. Obviously, I was one of those people, but there were others as well. People who would come after would leave right after. And it’s because no one wants to be around someone who may hinder their growth in life. People want what’s best for them, and if you’re an obstacle, they’ll be much more likely to get rid of the obstacle than get rid of what they want.
I’ve seen these stagnant people also complain about people always coming and going in their life, but they refuse to do anything that would make them feel as if they can stay and feel good about it. They won’t feel as if they’re getting dragged into unnecessary drama or hearing the same story over and over again. It’s tiring to hear the same story and have the same shock or worries when you know you’re about to hear it in a couple of weeks.
Most people want to have ZERO drama in their lives and have peace. They want people to bring them positivity, motivation, and happiness. So, if you’re a person who is harboring negativity… you’re going to repel those who are looking for positivity. Then, you’ll wonder why all the positivity in life has suddenly disappeared.
No change doesn’t mean zero consequences
Just like how they’re sacrifices when making any changes in life, there are consequences when it comes to staying the same. You must understand that in order to receive the new, you get rid of the old. That way, you leave room for the new to be received. So, I feel as if it’s the same when it comes to those who want to keep everything as they are. In order to keep the old, you have to get rid of the new.
When you do that, you keeping the new completely blocks out anything new that may come into your life. That’s the consequence you have to be okay with. The people whom I’ve interacted with who have this mentality want to have it all. They want to not change but expect that new opportunities, new people, new experiences will just fall into their lap. In reality, they experience the same kinds of people. They are given the SAME opportunities that they’ve been given before.
The consequences of trying to keep everything the same is that they’ll receive the same results. It’s only when they’re fed up with the results and willing to change is when there will be a change in the results as well. There doesn’t even have to be huge changes. It can be the slightest change to show that progress is being made! And that’s how they’ll be able to have a guide that brings them towards better results. However, they have to be willing to change AND stick with the change. You can change for a couple of days and go back to your old ways. Being able to change and close that door is an accomplishment in itself. So, remember that to have change you MUST make a change, small or large.
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